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I was not born with natural abilities to develop and build great relationship with my partner but these are skills like any other that can be learned and mastered if I recognizes the need and takes the time and effort to develop them. I have learned that no matter what your relationship is, both partners have to be willing to do two things: prioritize and communicate.
Chemistry and physical attraction may have brought you and your partner together, but you need more than a spark to maintain a happy, lasting relationship.
So much has been written about relationships that it’s difficult to determine what’s true and what’s not.We all seek relationship advice at one point or another. Whether we are entering a new relationship or trying to recover an old one.
But yeah! according to me Prioritizing your partner and communication plays a vital role.
1. Prioritize your partner.
Yes, it is sometimes difficult to do this among all the other things going on in life. Friends, work, family, hobbies. But if you truly love this person, should these other things really even matter? If putting your partner before these other factors of life feels like more of a chore than a joy to you, it might be time to question why you’re in this relationship. People need to feel wanted and loved ALL the time, not just some of the time. It’s a two-way street. If you are giving this person love but you’re not feeling it in return, or vice versa, how can the relationship succeed? Are you doing everything you can to make your partner feel special, to feel important? Are you taking time to make sure that their interests and hobbies are fulfilled as much as yours? Do you spend equal time between your friends and family as theirs? Sure, it might seem unrealistic to make this person your “all,” but being selfless is a means to satisfaction. If both people are in it to make the other happy, shouldn’t you both be getting what you want?
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2. Communicate.
If, for any reason, your partner is not fulfilling your needs by making you their priority, TALK TO THEM. We live in an era where communication has faded. Texting, emailing, and other forms of technology have thrown face-to-face communication out the door. Sit with your partner and tell them how their behaviors are making you feel. You don’t feel neglect, sadness, and frustration on your own. Something causes it. If this person loves you, they will understand, and they will do something about it. Too often people mistake such confrontation as one person’s desire to change the other. It’s not! Changing behaviors is not changing you. It’s called improvement. And if we all learned to be a little more selfless, we would get a lot farther in the world of love. We all get comfortable in our relationships, but we cannot let our efforts diminish. Just because you’re not new in love doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take initiative with your partner. Whether you’ve been dating two months, five years, or have been married for twenty, a simple act of love goes a long way. Don’t give your relationship the opportunity to “get comfortable” by allowing your love and affection to fade. Show your partner how much you love them through your actions just as much as your words.
We all change over time. We are continuously becoming different versions of ourselves. But the person you choose to spend your life with should be a constant. Determine what your relationship needs are. Be with someone that can satisfy those and don’t settle for less. Happiness is an expectation we should never lower our standards for.
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