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Modern Relationships: The Game has Changed

The modern relationship is a fallacy. I mean, what is a relationship exactly and why is our generation so very afraid of it?

Is it a meeting of two minds, their gentle complexities intertwining to form an unbreakable unit that is bound by enduring trust and mutual respect? Is it a partnership where both parties have an equal say in how things move forward? Is it two individuals who meet regularly over a drink or a meal to share their lives with each other, both silently bothering about the intimacy of the situation and what it could possibly mean? Is it the same “one night stand” that you wake up next to for the fourth weekend in a row? Is it the person on the other side of the country or the world that you occasionally text when the feelings of loneliness become impossible to bear?

There isn't one solid definition of what a relationship is because the people in them are so different. Each one has its own specific parameters. The problem with the modern relationship is that it isn't really one. Or if it is, it’s definitely not substantial and sustainable. With the arrival of countless dating applications and the accompanying ability to sate your boredom and/or sexual frustration at the literal click of a button, the art of the relationship has taken a back seat.

Emotional investment means sacrificing, it means being vulnerable, it means maturing, it means compromise, it means a long list of unpleasant, painful lessons that can help you grow. Relationships mean trying, they mean humility, and they mean seeing past your own needs, they mean inevitable lows. Why suffer through all of this when you can just drop your significant other when you've had enough and go hook up with someone new later? Why work to fix something that you know in your deepest of hearts, is and always will be beautiful but just needs a little work?

Obviously not all relationships are this way. Some just aren't meant to be. It is sad though the mythology of the modern relationship.

Here comes the worst part with those relationship statuses on sites like Facebook  things can get complicated and messy. While this can be a cute display of your love for the person you’re with, it can become something dark and worrisome. Anytime you change your status or make a mention of who you’re dating, your relationship is on public display and challenged. When one party labels themselves as in a relationship, and the other party doesn't  it begins to work at the fibers of the relationship you thought you were building. When it comes to dating in the modern world, the intentions for many are very different than they were in the past. People used to date because they were interested in being in a relationship. But today, people don’t necessarily date because they want to be in a relationship. Many date because they want to hook-up, often with multiple partners, described with a mask.“Netflix and chill” isn't even about watching movies. This can really blur the relationship lines. When sex is put on the table before you even establish a relationship, it’s not easy deciphering where the relationship stands.
Modern dating is hard and can get pretty complicated with so many unspoken rules

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